Jan 02

Not Reviewing the Year – 2017

Last year my main achievement was writing a novel (which hopefully you’ll all get to read sooner than later!), but otherwise I’m not even sure where 2017 went.

I feel like my life has been fairly static for a long time now, and while that’s no bad thing, it feels like I need to shake things up.

I’m just not sure how, exactly… so I’m going to take time in January to chew over where I’m at and where I’d like to be.

Anyway, in the meantime, I wanted to share with you this post about my ‘Awards’ system for reviewing the year which just got published at Puttylike.

You might find it fun or interesting to try it yourself (and if you do, I’d love to hear how it works for you!)

Talk soon, once I’ve done some thinking 🙂

The Awards – A Super Fun and Insightful Way to Review Your Year

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A Jar of Human Traits!

There’s a proper update coming soon but someone made me this and I couldn’t resist giving you a sneak peek!

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the battery level doesn’t help either :D

Nov 17

Being an Adult Child (in a Good Way)

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com]

I never really grew out of childishness.

It’s just so fun. Children get to be curious, silly, and playful. And there’s something delightfully mindful about the capacity they have to get absorbed in an activity for hours on end.

Naturally, we can’t remain entirely childlike forever, but I’ve been thinking lately about which parts of childishness we might benefit from, even now we’re Definitely Responsible Adults. (Which I am.) (Honest.)

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Oct 31

When Should We Run Away From Our Problems?

I run away by Simy_Orifici, on Flickr

Original Photo © Simy_Orifici, Simy_Orifici on Flickr.
CC BY-ND 2.0

[status: pretty obvious stuff, but may be helpful to people – like me – who tend to overthink things]

Recently, somebody asked me for advice about making a big decision.

Obviously, the fact they were asking me demonstrates terrible judgement, so I told them whatever decision they THOUGHT they should make, they should probably do the opposite.

I kid, of course. But I was interested in why they were asking: Read more…

Oct 20

It Might Not Matter “Why” We’re Anxious

good question by e-magic, on Flickr

Original Photo © Eric, emagic on Flickr.
CC BY-ND 2.0

At my most anxious, I spent a LOT of time asking “why”.

If only I understood the reason for my anxiety – if I could understand it, explain it – then I could solve it.

But this was just a distraction. In fact, it made things worse.

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Status update

Don’t hold onto a certain bad due to fear of an uncertain good

Status update

I haven’t yet figured out when to keep pushing through difficulties, and when to give up, stop and recharge.

But I’m trying this: if one approach isn’t working, use the other one.

Sep 05

Links IV: Link and You’ll Miss It

It’s time for the (very irregular) roundup of a few of the more interesting things I’ve come across on the internet lately:


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Aug 22

Why Good Advice Might Be Bad Advice (and vice versa)

Go to Italy. by QuinnDombrowski, on Flickr

Original Photo © Quinn Dombrowski, QuinnDombrowski on Flickr.
CC BY-SA 2.0


[post status: a little rough, but there’s something useful buried in here!]

Here’s some advice you might hear if you’re dealing with anxiety:

“It doesn’t matter WHY you’re struggling, accept the feelings and focus instead on the present”

Sounds great. But, then, so does this: “we should confront and heal our past traumas so they stop bothering us in the present”!

And these good-sounding bits of advice seem to be contradictory..!

How are we supposed to know WHEN to confront past traumas, and when to let go and focus on the present?

(And I bet you’ve come across loads more of these seemingly-contradictory pairs of advice.)

Here’s an answer I often return to:

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