How to Let Go of an Old Life, or Neil Hughes and the Fiery Death of the Phoenix

Readers of How To Be Everything—Emilie Wapnicks’s guidebook to life—will be familiar with the Phoenix Approach, which describes how people occasionally reinvent themselves like the legendary phoenix rising from its own ashes.

This sounds exciting—and it is. But it turns out burning up and rebirthing out of the remains can hurt.

Isn’t There Something More I Should Be Doing?

I’ve never felt more useless than during covid. In my country, there ws a time when every Thursday evening everybody lined up outside to applaud health workers. Quite rightly, we recognised their bravery and heroism in frightening circumstances. 

I, on the other hand, wasn’t saving lives. I’ve spent the last few years writing…