Do You Feel the Need to Be Impressive?

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] Hi, my name’s Neil Hughes and, because I’m human, I want you to be impressed by me. This is a normal urge. We are social animals, so it’s natural to be concerned about our status within the tribe. Our brains: Am I important? What do people think when…

Doing Things is Overrated… So Stop (A Bit)

You know that bit in the Simpsons intro where Maggie is steering on a pretend wheel to mimic the driving that Marge is doing? Our brains would genuinely be happier if we could attach a fake steering wheel to “life” and pretend we were controlling everything that happens to us.

Compulsively and Without Joy

The Big Lebowski is one of my favourite movies. I could go on – at length – about why. Although I’m not going to, so this GIF will have to suffice: via GIPHY One quote from the film that’s always stuck with me is “compulsively and without joy“. I’m not sure why, perhaps there’s just…

Oh no, I’m Motivated By Fear!

Now that I’m (mostly) successfully managing my anxiety, everything should be great forever… right?! Well, no. Obviously life isn’t magically perfect. (Though of course “less anxiety” is a huge improvement!) This is fine. I never expected perfection. But something else I didn’t expect was that managing anxiety better could itself cause problems.