[post status: a quick & messy throwaway thought] It’s a two-way street between our feelings and our actions. Sometimes we perform well because we’re confident, but acting confident also helps our performance. Hence the popular advice: “Fake it till you make it!”
[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] Hi, my name’s Neil Hughes and, because I’m human, I want you to be impressed by me. This is a normal urge. We are social animals, so it’s natural to be concerned about our status within the tribe. Our brains: Am I important? What do people think when…
There’s lots of advice out there on how to achieve your dreams.
But what if I don’t know what my dream even is?! How on earth do I move on when I have difficulty realising what I even want?
[Status: Only a quick undeveloped realisation.] Isn’t it weird that something that happened years ago “feels like yesterday”, while something that happened last week “feels like forever ago”? Well actually, I’ve just realised it might not be weird at all.
You know that bit in the Simpsons intro where Maggie is steering on a pretend wheel to mimic the driving that Marge is doing? Our brains would genuinely be happier if we could attach a fake steering wheel to “life” and pretend we were controlling everything that happens to us.
Today I’m too tired to write a proper post, so my cunning plan is “just not to”.
I come across lots of cool and interesting stuff on the internet, so I thought it’d be good to keep track of the very best things and share them here. And so, welcome to the Inaugural Links Post. Enjoy!
The Big Lebowski is one of my favourite movies. I could go on – at length – about why. Although I’m not going to, so this GIF will have to suffice: via GIPHY One quote from the film that’s always stuck with me is “compulsively and without joy“. I’m not sure why, perhaps there’s just…
Now that I’m (mostly) successfully managing my anxiety, everything should be great forever… right?! Well, no. Obviously life isn’t magically perfect. (Though of course “less anxiety” is a huge improvement!) This is fine. I never expected perfection. But something else I didn’t expect was that managing anxiety better could itself cause problems.
[post status: a quick, experimental, half-formed thought] You know how when you feel something in your body, and you’re not quite sure what it is?