Have you ever entered the doldrums? Not the literal doldrums—the tedious places at sea where winds are few and sailors struggled to escape. I mean those times in life when nothing at all feels interesting.
Tag: advice
It’s Okay to Be Bad at Things
“If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly.” – G. K. Chesterton
Last week I was overcome with paralyzing guilt after slightly miscooking a sausage sandwich.
Don’t worry—the sandwich was delicious. But even as I was putting it together, a critical internal voice was opining that the pan had…
You Might As Well Do The Thing: How to Make Decisions While Anxious
Anxiety can make decision-making difficult, so I’ve developed a few techniques for figuring out when to leap into something. (And when not to.)
How to Tolerate Uncertainty When Waiting
Ding. You’ve Got Mail.
Later, you will think, “I really ought to turn off that notification. It’s not 1997.” But right now, other things are on your mind. Your throat is tight, your heart is thumping, and you’re nervously staring at that bold subject line which has appeared on the screen:
I’m Anxious – What Do I Do Now?
Ideas of what to do when you discover anxiety.
Why Good Advice Might Be Bad Advice (and vice versa)
[post status: a little rough, but there’s something useful buried in here!] Here’s some advice you might hear if you’re dealing with anxiety: “It doesn’t matter WHY you’re struggling, accept the feelings and focus instead on the present” Sounds great. But, then, so does this: “we should confront and heal our past traumas so they…
Have Fun, For Fun’s Sake!
I often feel pressure, like questions are burnt into my brain by endless repetition:
You Can’t Not Do Things, You Can Only Do Them
Trying not to do something is a trap. If you’re stuck, reframe it as a positive action.
Jiggling an Imaginary Rope Helps You Re-Evaluate Your Life
How to use the exact right amount of effort all the time.
Doing Things is Overrated… So Stop (A Bit)
You know that bit in the Simpsons intro where Maggie is steering on a pretend wheel to mimic the driving that Marge is doing? Our brains would genuinely be happier if we could attach a fake steering wheel to “life” and pretend we were controlling everything that happens to us.