Just something I’ve been thinking about…
I just spent five minutes doodling this graph. I don’t know how universally true it is, but I find it helpful to remind myself that self-confidence and self-esteem are separate.
- Self-esteem is, roughly, “how much we like ourselves”
- Self-confidence is, roughly, “how much we imagine others like us”
Of course, these are certainly related concepts. But there have been many times when I’ve felt confident about others while disliking myself, or vice versa.
They don’t always move perfectly in step.
Sometimes people appear outwardly confident, but we have no idea that they’re struggling with negative feelings about themselves. Meanwhile, people who love themselves can feel unconfident around others.
It’s hard work to make it to the top-right hand corner of this graph!