[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] Do your attempts to be kind to yourself ever backfire? I’ve noticed lately that my moments of self-generosity are occasionally actively unhelpful to me: “Fine, I’ll watch another episode.” “I’ve worked hard, I don’t need to exercise today.” “If I eat a second dessert… then I can free […]
Quite often, I get asked “what should someone do after they realise they’re anxious?” There’s no definitive answer to that question – every person and every situation is different, so it’s impossible to give one-size-fits-all advice. But there are a few ideas which might help someone figure out the next step for them…
At my most anxious, I spent a LOT of time asking “why”. If only I understood the reason for my anxiety – if I could understand it, explain it – then I could solve it. But this was just a distraction. In fact, it made things worse.
[post status: a little rough, but there’s something useful buried in here!] Here’s some advice you might hear if you’re dealing with anxiety: “It doesn’t matter WHY you’re struggling, accept the feelings and focus instead on the present” Sounds great. But, then, so does this: “we should confront and heal our past traumas so they […]
[post status: a quick & messy throwaway thought] It’s a two-way street between our feelings and our actions. Sometimes we perform well because we’re confident, but acting confident also helps our performance. Hence the popular advice: “Fake it till you make it!”
. It’s surprisingly easy to forget these things about ourselves:
You can divide up the causes of anxiety into three.
We’ve Got The Whole World (In Our Heads), We’ve Got The Whole Wide World (In Our Heads), We’ve Got The Whole World (In Our Heads), We’ve Got The Whole World In Our Heads. This homage to an old hymn gets weird rapidly after verse one, so let’s end it there. Question: Is the whole world […]
For most of us, learning to be happy after anxiety isn’t a smooth journey. If you pushed me into saying more, I’d go as far as saying it’s a bumpy journey. In fact, I’d probably get over-excited and go super-metaphorical about it:
Breathing has become strangely fashionable in recent months. Not only is everyone doing it, they’re talking about it a lot too: “Just breathe”… “Focus on your breath”… “Breathe your way out of a panic attack”… “Our most powerful weapon against anxiety is our breath”…”BREATHE YOU FOOL, BREATHE, QUICK, THEY’RE COMING, WE HAVEN’T GOT MUCH TIME” […]