You Probably Need to Do This One Thing More Often

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] Do your attempts to be kind to yourself ever backfire? I’ve noticed lately that my moments of self-generosity are occasionally actively unhelpful to me: “Fine, I’ll watch another episode.” “I’ve worked hard, I don’t need to exercise today.” “If I eat a second dessert… then I can free […]

I’m Anxious – What Do I Do Now?

Quite often, I get asked “what should someone do after they realise they’re anxious?” There’s no definitive answer to that question – every person and every situation is different, so it’s impossible to give one-size-fits-all advice. But there are a few ideas which might help someone figure out the next step for them…

Why Good Advice Might Be Bad Advice (and vice versa)

[post status: a little rough, but there’s something useful buried in here!] Here’s some advice you might hear if you’re dealing with anxiety: “It doesn’t matter WHY you’re struggling, accept the feelings and focus instead on the present” Sounds great. But, then, so does this: “we should confront and heal our past traumas so they […]

Is The Whole World In Our Heads?

We’ve Got The Whole World (In Our Heads), We’ve Got The Whole Wide World (In Our Heads), We’ve Got The Whole World (In Our Heads), We’ve Got The Whole World In Our Heads. This homage to an old hymn gets weird rapidly after verse one, so let’s end it there. Question: Is the whole world […]

The Insultingly Simple Guide to Breathing

Breathing has become strangely fashionable in recent months. Not only is everyone doing it, they’re talking about it a lot too: “Just breathe”… “Focus on your breath”… “Breathe your way out of a panic attack”… “Our most powerful weapon against anxiety is our breath”…”BREATHE YOU FOOL, BREATHE, QUICK, THEY’RE COMING, WE HAVEN’T GOT MUCH TIME” […]