How Tiny, Unconscious Habits Can Lead to a World of Pain

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] “Look after yourself,” suggests a well-meaning friend. “Um, thanks…” I respond—but privately, I bristle. What else am I going to do?! Not look after myself? And yet… I absolutely need to be told this, because every single day I fail to take care of myself through dozens of […]

You Probably Need to Do This One Thing More Often

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] Do your attempts to be kind to yourself ever backfire? I’ve noticed lately that my moments of self-generosity are occasionally actively unhelpful to me: “Fine, I’ll watch another episode.” “I’ve worked hard, I don’t need to exercise today.” “If I eat a second dessert… then I can free […]

I’m Anxious – What Do I Do Now?

Quite often, I get asked “what should someone do after they realise they’re anxious?” There’s no definitive answer to that question – every person and every situation is different, so it’s impossible to give one-size-fits-all advice. But there are a few ideas which might help someone figure out the next step for them…