Tag Archive: inner critic

Feb 17

Jiggling an Imaginary Rope Helps You Re-Evaluate Your Life

[Warning: contains mild physics.]

Imagine a short piece of rope. We’ll call him Ropert.

Let’s imagine that Ropert represents our lives.

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Sep 21

Why Am I Always Repeating the Same Problems Over and Over?

[May be relevant if you feel as if the same problems keep resurfacing in your life without ever being properly dealt with.]

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Imagine that you’re untying a giant tangle made up of many, many pieces of coloured string.

(I have no idea why you might be doing this. Presumably you’re very bored.)

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May 11

Oh no, I’m Motivated By Fear!

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Now that I’m (mostly) successfully managing my anxiety, everything should be great forever… right?!

Well, no.

Obviously life isn’t magically perfect. (Though of course “less anxiety” is a huge improvement!)

This is fine. I never expected perfection.

But something else I didn’t expect was that managing anxiety better could itself cause problems.

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Feb 24

Loving Your Inner Critic?

I was asked to write a gentle article about self-love and our inner critics for selfharm UK.

You can click here to read it over on their website.

Inner critic: Save yourself the trouble, it’s rubbish.

I think it’s fine. Probably some people will agree with me, some with my inner critic.

That’s fine too.


No inner voices were harmed in the production of this post.

Check out the Book for Anxious Humans, which explores anxiety and happiness through embarrassing real-life stories, fantasy fiction, thought-provoking discussion and terribly-drawn doodles.

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Read the whole series on Anxiety here.

Nov 23

My Day at TED X Leamington Spa

Update: The talk is out! Check it out here after reading the story below.

Saturday was a huge day for me!

I’ve finally made the switch to almond milk, and reduced my dairy intake. It’ll be interesting to see what effect this has on my morning digestion.

Also, I gave a TED talk at TED X Leamington Spa!

Me, somewhat awkwardly standing with balloons.

Me, somewhat awkwardly standing with balloons.

My talk was all about anxiety. And custard, naturally.

I had ambitious plans for it. I wanted to get across the importance of openness about our struggles, both for our own benefit and for others.

I wanted to paint an overall picture of the journey from anxiety to less-anxiety, while sharing some mind management strategies.

And I wanted it to be as funny as possible, while not detracting from the seriousness of what I was talking about. Easy, right?

So, how did it go?

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Nov 10

Enjoying The Bad Days Too

The Tower (over the thought of random ha by â„¢ Pacheco, on Flickr

Is this dark and foreboding, or is it beautiful? I honestly don’t know.

Original Photo © Pacheco, Pacheco on Flickr.
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For most of us, learning to be happy after anxiety isn’t a smooth journey.

If you pushed me into saying more, I’d go as far as saying it’s a bumpy journey.

In fact, I’d probably get over-excited and go super-metaphorical about it:

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Aug 20

Is Reality Enough to Make Us Happy?

???? by kkctys, on Flickr

The bubble wizard was not the most feared of all at wizard school.

Original Photo © Tsuyoshi Kikuchi, kkctys on Flickr.
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As a child, I firmly believed in magic.

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Jun 22

The Insultingly Simple Guide to Breathing

Breath of fire #3 by Pierre Lognoul, on Flickr

Breathing. She’s doing it wrong.

Original Photo © Pierre Lognoul, Pierre Lognoul on Flickr.
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Breathing has become strangely fashionable in recent months.

Not only is everyone doing it, they’re talking about it a lot too:

“Just breathe”… “Focus on your breath”… “Breathe your way out of a panic attack”… “Our most powerful weapon against anxiety is our breath”…”BREATHE YOU FOOL, BREATHE, QUICK, THEY’RE COMING, WE HAVEN’T GOT MUCH TIME”

I’ve heard all of these so often lately.

Each time, it seems almost insulting to be told that “breathing” is the solution to my problems.

I mean, I breathe literally all the time. I do it in my sleep. What more do these breath-obsessed zealots want?!

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Jun 10

What I Learned In Berlin & Copenhagen (About The Future, Flying Vegetables & Travel Anxiety)

denmark party

Part of the party.

Anybody who has known me for even a short time knows I am attracted to ridiculousness like a moth attracted to fire.

Where the thing on fire is a cow dressed as clown.

(Of course, it’s possible that ridiculous events are attracted to me, and not the other way around. I’ve never been able to figure this out.)

Occasionally I attempt to resist and be sensible for a while, but no matter what I try, silliness seems to follow me.

A couple of months ago, during one of these “attempts to be sensible”, I booked onto a conference being held in Berlin at the end of May: Alive in Berlin.

I didn’t know much about it, but figured it would provide a nice celebration after releasing my first book and a chance to do a bit of travelling while I make my next plan.

But then, a couple of days after I booked on, this post popped up on my facebook:

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May 18

Several Ways To Enter A Shower That Is Initially Too Hot

Day 73- That’s Hot. by Jinx!, on Flickr

The hot tap.
Source of much pleasure… and much pain.

Original Photo © Jinx!, Jinx! on Flickr.
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I have a recurring problem.

Actually, I have many recurring problems. But today we’re going to discuss a particularly tricky one:

What is the best way to enter a shower when it’s initially too hot… but will be a perfect temperature after your body has adapted?

The answer may surprise you!

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