Tag: happiness

What I’m Doing in July 2018

[post status: a brief life update]

When  Walking on Custard came out in 2015 (aside: I cannot believe that was three  years ago! What on EARTH is happening to the flow of time?!), I needed some sort of online home.

I considered all kinds of wild, imaginative ideas, like interactive websites which would act as companions to the book, somehow procedurally generating both entertainment and life advice…

… but in the end I realised that simplicity was definitely the best option in this case. So I set up this basic WordPress site, and voila: a place where I can muse about anxiety and life without having to put in much effort.

A simple blog that exists is better than an all-singing, all-dancing web experience that doesn’t.

And this place has served its purpose well!

I’m constantly surprised at how many people manage to stumble into my little corner of the internet, AND at how many of those people bother to send me lovely emails about articles which resonated with them. (They can’t ALL secretly be my mum, right?!)

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Being an Adult Child (in a Good Way)

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com]

I never really grew out of childishness.

It’s just so fun. Children get to be curious, silly, and playful. And there’s something delightfully mindful about the capacity they have to get absorbed in an activity for hours on end.

Naturally, we can’t remain entirely childlike forever, but I’ve been thinking lately about which parts of childishness we might benefit from, even now we’re Definitely Responsible Adults. (Which I am.) (Honest.)

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Have Fun, For Fun’s Sake!

[This relatively sensible post was originally written for puttylike.com]

I often feel pressure, like questions are burnt into my brain by endless repetition:

Am I contributing to the world right now?

Am I making enough money?

Am I deepening myself, learning new skills and growing as a person?

You might think that achieving any of these goals would be sufficient, but sometimes even when I manage one of them feels like it’s not enough. While I’m learning something valuable, I still feel pressure that I’m not contributing, or earning, or… or… or…

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Do More Things You Enjoy

[SUPER QUICK POST]

Today, some Incredibly Obvious Advice Which I Always Forget.

You know those things you enjoy doing?

(Perhaps you don’t. For me, modern life often turns into a kind of repetitive drudgery where days blend into one another. Even so, there’s usually something at some point lately which brought some joy. It’s useful to notice “what’s been fun, joyful, enjoyable, good lately” every now and then.)

Here’s my suggestion: try and do more of those things you like.

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Jiggling an Imaginary Rope Helps You Re-Evaluate Your Life

[Warning: contains mild physics.]

Imagine a short piece of rope. We’ll call him Ropert.

Let’s imagine that Ropert represents our lives.

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The One Answer to All Our Problems

Potash Road, Near Moab, Utah by Ken Lund, on Flickr

The end of the road is around the NEXT bend. For sure.

Original Photo © Ken Lund, kenlund on Flickr.
CC BY-SA 2.0

I want the answer.

The one, single answer which will solve all my problems.

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My Life Is Not Worth Living

Entrance into darkness by d26b73, on Flickr

Entering the darkness. (Or possibly leaving it.)

Original Photo © d26b73, d26b73 on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic License

Minds May Say…

When things go wrong, my life is not worth living…

If I don’t get a degree, my life is not worth living.

If I don’t have a partner, my life is not worth living.

If I fail at work, my life is not worth living.

If I spend an evening alone while others are out having fun, my life is not worth living.

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Enjoying The Bad Days Too

The Tower (over the thought of random ha by â„¢ Pacheco, on Flickr

Is this dark and foreboding, or is it beautiful? I honestly don’t know.

Original Photo © Pacheco, Pacheco on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution-No Derivative Works 2.0 Generic License

For most of us, learning to be happy after anxiety isn’t a smooth journey.

If you pushed me into saying more, I’d go as far as saying it’s a bumpy journey.

In fact, I’d probably get over-excited and go super-metaphorical about it:

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Happiness Isn’t About Feeling Happy

Happiness by Moyan_Brenn, on Flickr

Simon’s tiny rainbow made it very difficult to fit through doors.

Original Photo © Moyan Brenn, Moyan_Brenn on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic License

“What is happiness?”

This question has been ruined. Ruined!

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Is Reality Enough to Make Us Happy?

???? by kkctys, on Flickr

The bubble wizard was not the most feared of all at wizard school.

Original Photo © Tsuyoshi Kikuchi, kkctys on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic License

As a child, I firmly believed in magic.

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