Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence and Anxiety

Just something I’ve been thinking about…

I just spent five minutes doodling this graph. I don’t know how universally true it is, but I find it helpful to remind myself that self-confidence and self-esteem are separate.

  • Self-esteem is, roughly, “how much we like ourselves”
  • Self-confidence is, roughly, “how much we imagine others like us”

Of course, these are certainly related concepts. But there have been many times when I’ve felt confident about others while disliking myself, or vice versa.

They don’t always move perfectly in step.

Sometimes people appear outwardly confident, but we have no idea that they’re struggling with negative feelings about themselves. Meanwhile, people who love themselves can feel unconfident around others.

It’s hard work to make it to the top-right hand corner of this graph!

1 comment

    • Scott on 12th August 2019 at 2:13 pm

    Hi there great little aricle on this one and you are right it is really hard to make the top right hand corner of the graph. In my experience most anxiety does come from lack of confidence. Unfortunately there are more people that will criticise your attempts than support you nowadays. That is true for everyone we all have to go through that stage but once you realize it is not about them it is about you and whether you are happy with your performance, yourself, the way you look and that their words mean nothing it is much easier to feel more confident about your actions because you only have one person to keep happy then YOURSELF. Keep writing and sharing best wishes Scott

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