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Mar 18

Sort of Fake It till you Sort of Make It

[post status: a quick & messy throwaway thought]

It’s a two-way street between our feelings and our actions. Sometimes we perform well because we’re confident, but acting confident also helps our performance.

Hence the popular advice: “Fake it till you make it!”

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Dec 14

Some Reminders About Your Value

Value by MootreeLife, on Flickr

Original Photo © Jackie, mootreelife on Flickr.
CC BY-ND 2.0

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It’s surprisingly easy to forget these things about ourselves:

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Nov 14

The Three Causes of Anxiety

Solitude at the horizon by aπ, on Flickr

Original Photo © aπ, on Flickr.
CC BY 2.0

You can divide up the causes of anxiety into three.


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Jan 22

Is The Whole World In Our Heads?

We’ve Got The Whole World (In Our Heads),
We’ve Got The Whole Wide World (In Our Heads),
We’ve Got The Whole World (In Our Heads),
We’ve Got The Whole World In Our Heads.

This homage to an old hymn gets weird rapidly after verse one, so let’s end it there.

Question: Is the whole world in our heads?

Answer: Depends on what you mean by “in our head”.

Let me explain, using this Highly Scientific Diagram of how we experience the world:

ThingsHappenBrainProcesses

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Nov 10

Enjoying The Bad Days Too

The Tower (over the thought of random ha by â„¢ Pacheco, on Flickr

Is this dark and foreboding, or is it beautiful? I honestly don’t know.

Original Photo © Pacheco, Pacheco on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution-No Derivative Works 2.0 Generic License

For most of us, learning to be happy after anxiety isn’t a smooth journey.

If you pushed me into saying more, I’d go as far as saying it’s a bumpy journey.

In fact, I’d probably get over-excited and go super-metaphorical about it:

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Jun 22

The Insultingly Simple Guide to Breathing

Breath of fire #3 by Pierre Lognoul, on Flickr

Breathing. She’s doing it wrong.

Original Photo © Pierre Lognoul, Pierre Lognoul on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution-No Derivative Works 2.0 Generic License

Breathing has become strangely fashionable in recent months.

Not only is everyone doing it, they’re talking about it a lot too:

“Just breathe”… “Focus on your breath”… “Breathe your way out of a panic attack”… “Our most powerful weapon against anxiety is our breath”…”BREATHE YOU FOOL, BREATHE, QUICK, THEY’RE COMING, WE HAVEN’T GOT MUCH TIME”

I’ve heard all of these so often lately.

Each time, it seems almost insulting to be told that “breathing” is the solution to my problems.

I mean, I breathe literally all the time. I do it in my sleep. What more do these breath-obsessed zealots want?!

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