Being an Adult Child (in a Good Way)

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] I never really grew out of childishness. It’s just so fun. Children get to be curious, silly, and playful. And there’s something delightfully mindful about the capacity they have to get absorbed in an activity for hours on end. Naturally, we can’t remain entirely childlike forever, but I’ve […]

Have Fun, For Fun’s Sake!

[This relatively sensible post was originally written for puttylike.com] I often feel pressure, like questions are burnt into my brain by endless repetition: Am I contributing to the world right now? Am I making enough money? Am I deepening myself, learning new skills and growing as a person? You might think that achieving any of […]

Do You Plan, Ruminate, Worry, Poke, Prod, and Fumble? How to Stop Overanalysing Your Life

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] I’ve been planning to write this post for approximately seven years. Every possible paragraph has been carefully researched. Each of my thoughts has been studied intensely by a number of focus groups so that they are perfectly formed. (In fact, the focus groups were themselves chosen by focus […]

Do You Feel the Need to Be Impressive?

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] Hi, my name’s Neil Hughes and, because I’m human, I want you to be impressed by me. This is a normal urge. We are social animals, so it’s natural to be concerned about our status within the tribe. Our brains: Am I important? What do people think when […]

Why You’re So Confused About What You Want

[This post was originally written for puttylike.com] There’s lots of advice out there on how to achieve your dreams. But what if I don’t know what my dream even is?! How on earth do I move on when I have difficulty realising what I even want?

Loving Your Inner Critic?

I was asked to write a gentle article about self-love and our inner critics for selfharm UK. You can click here to read it over on their website. Inner critic: Save yourself the trouble, it’s rubbish. I think it’s fine. Probably some people will agree with me, some with my inner critic. That’s fine too. […]

Laughing at Anxiety – Or With It – Or Something

[I originally wrote this article for the Huffington Post – click here to see it in its natural habitat] Laughter is the best medicine. (Unless you’re trying to treat insomnia, in which case laughter is at best highly inconvenient or – more likely – annoying beyond belief.) But how useful is laughter for the anxious? […]