Category: Happiness

Doing Things is Overrated… So Stop (A Bit)

resting by Michael Cory, on Flickr

Original Photo © Michael Cory, khouri on Flickr.
CC BY 2.0

You know that bit in the Simpsons intro where Maggie is steering on a pretend wheel to mimic the driving that Marge is doing?

Maggie (copyright Fox, or whoever owns the Simpsons these days)

Maggie Simpson (copyright Fox, or whoever owns the Simpsons these days)

Our brains would genuinely be happier if we could attach a fake steering wheel to “life” and pretend we were controlling everything that happens to us.

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Why Am I Always Repeating the Same Problems Over and Over?

[May be relevant if you feel as if the same problems keep resurfacing in your life without ever being properly dealt with.]

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Imagine that you’re untying a giant tangle made up of many, many pieces of coloured string.

(I have no idea why you might be doing this. Presumably you’re very bored.)

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The Gap Between Where We Are and What We Want

It seems fairly clear to me is that there’s often a gap between “what we have” and “what we want”.

If I were to accurately model this gap using Science(TM) and Art(TM) it’d look something like this:

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The One Answer to All Our Problems

Potash Road, Near Moab, Utah by Ken Lund, on Flickr

The end of the road is around the NEXT bend. For sure.

Original Photo © Ken Lund, kenlund on Flickr.
CC BY-SA 2.0

I want the answer.

The one, single answer which will solve all my problems.

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Oh no, I’m Motivated By Fear!

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Now that I’m (mostly) successfully managing my anxiety, everything should be great forever… right?!

Well, no.

Obviously life isn’t magically perfect. (Though of course “less anxiety” is a huge improvement!)

This is fine. I never expected perfection.

But something else I didn’t expect was that managing anxiety better could itself cause problems.

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My Life Is Not Worth Living

Entrance into darkness by d26b73, on Flickr

Entering the darkness. (Or possibly leaving it.)

Original Photo © d26b73, d26b73 on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic License

Minds May Say…

When things go wrong, my life is not worth living…

If I don’t get a degree, my life is not worth living.

If I don’t have a partner, my life is not worth living.

If I fail at work, my life is not worth living.

If I spend an evening alone while others are out having fun, my life is not worth living.

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Enjoying The Bad Days Too

The Tower (over the thought of random ha by â„¢ Pacheco, on Flickr

Is this dark and foreboding, or is it beautiful? I honestly don’t know.

Original Photo © Pacheco, Pacheco on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution-No Derivative Works 2.0 Generic License

For most of us, learning to be happy after anxiety isn’t a smooth journey.

If you pushed me into saying more, I’d go as far as saying it’s a bumpy journey.

In fact, I’d probably get over-excited and go super-metaphorical about it:

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Happiness Isn’t About Feeling Happy

Happiness by Moyan_Brenn, on Flickr

Simon’s tiny rainbow made it very difficult to fit through doors.

Original Photo © Moyan Brenn, Moyan_Brenn on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic License

“What is happiness?”

This question has been ruined. Ruined!

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Is Reality Enough to Make Us Happy?

???? by kkctys, on Flickr

The bubble wizard was not the most feared of all at wizard school.

Original Photo © Tsuyoshi Kikuchi, kkctys on Flickr.
Creative Commons Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic License

As a child, I firmly believed in magic.

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What I Learned In Berlin & Copenhagen (About The Future, Flying Vegetables & Travel Anxiety)

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Part of the party.

Anybody who has known me for even a short time knows I am attracted to ridiculousness like a moth attracted to fire.

Where the thing on fire is a cow dressed as clown.

(Of course, it’s possible that ridiculous events are attracted to me, and not the other way around. I’ve never been able to figure this out.)

Occasionally I attempt to resist and be sensible for a while, but no matter what I try, silliness seems to follow me.

A couple of months ago, during one of these “attempts to be sensible”, I booked onto a conference being held in Berlin at the end of May: Alive in Berlin.

I didn’t know much about it, but figured it would provide a nice celebration after releasing my first book and a chance to do a bit of travelling while I make my next plan.

But then, a couple of days after I booked on, this post popped up on my facebook:

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